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Porn is rape/degrading.

 Sorry. I don’t know why the picture didn’t come up. But you can click on the link  I’ll save the discussion of why porn is rape for when I get back from vacation. In fact, I’ve been visiting a lot of porn stores to research the issue of women and the image thereof in porn, examining the intersectionality between sex, gender, power, economic status, race and class – and what it has to do with porn (don’t forget age, too). But for now, here’s a picture I took a few days ago of a porn DVD cover. The sticker was bought at a feminist conference. What I’ll do is, from now on, I’ll go ahead and bring the stickers everywhere I go. If you want some, let me know. I hope everyone is doing well. I also have quite an interesting story on how I had to give my mom a speech on why when I get married, we (although I don’t know who will be my wife yet) are not going to involve diamonds. Because diamonds are also oppressive and not romantic.

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When my husband and I were talking about getting married, we agreed not to get me a diamond. Part of the reasoning was money– we were still in college, and saw no need to spend $5,000 on a diamond, as pretty as they are, when a $500 sapphire can be just as gorgeous. But the whole bloody-diamond-industry also played into it, along with the fact that diamond prices are completely inflated and fabricated (there’s enough diamonds for every man, woman and child on earth to have a half-cup ful, but the supply is constrained to keep the cost high).

I have many friends who went to great lengths to get a “blood-free” diamond, but to me that almost seems silly– why not just go for another gemstone? Not only was my sapphire cheaper (I’ll spend that money elsewhere, thanks very much) but is also much more unique.

Comment by Marcy

I almost don’t want an “engagement ring” at all, diamond or not. It signifies ownership of the woman while the man’s hands/fingers remain bare. I don’t believe in the symbolism so I think it’d be hypocritical to adopt the symbol. Just me.

Comment by SarahMC

SarahMC-
I agree. When I was engaged, we didn’t do the engagement ring thing, and my sisters-in-law were horrified. (They both sport multiple carat rocks.) It always seemed to me to be a prize that women were supposed to go for, rather than, you know, LOVING the guy you’re marrying. Or almost like being bought. I just didn’t need to prove to my friends or anyone else that my guy could provide for me since I would basically be providing for myself. Besides, we were both poor, and I would have killed him if he’d spent money on a ring instead of putting it toward his student loans!

Funny how a porn post has morphed into a diamond post.

Comment by Mary

About a week after we got engaged my then-soon-to-be-husband said to me, “why don’t men get engagement rings? I want to feel engaged, too!” So I got him a white gold band so he could have his own engagement ring. =) I thought it was so cute that he wanted one. And, that way we’re BOTH wearing something that tells other that we’re off-limits.

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