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Pornography, women, misogyny and feminism

I’d wanted to write about my recent examination of my own musculinity, violence, the struggle for power and the patriarchy, as a response to claims that I lacked (indeed I do) of self-examination, but I ran across something yesterday, after corresponding about musculinity and violence with Dr. Robert Jensen, a women’s studies professor, that I wanted to write about. More, tomorrow, on my recent discoveries of why my urges to fight for power through violent means are a direct result of male privilege and masculinity. For now, you get this.

As many of you know, I’ve become fascinated with research of pornography and how it effects our daily lives. I was in the middle of research when I found a slideshow that already had the things I was looking for. The link is below – and it’s upsetting.

More than just objectifying women, porn also affects us in ways we’ve never really thought of before – in tells us what is sexy, what is desirable, and more importantly, how women should be viewed.

With porn, women are no longer seen as whole, complete people with feelings and minds, but rather, a vehicle for men’s pleasure. If we can separate fantasy from reality, is it wrong? The problem is when it starts becoming that prevelant in our culture, it’s hard to tell.

We start to buy into these ideas, and as a result, two things happen: women are harmed, in that they are seen as sex objects, and will become subjects of harrassments, bad relationships, and worst, rape.

Secondly, it doesn’t allow us to truly love one another – because we see our partners through the pornographic lense – they are all resemblences of what the porn industry portrays.

I have to admit – even as a pro-feminist male, I’ve gotten into the mindset of (in the past) women with whom I’d like to have sex, and women for whom I feel an affinity, and would like to know as a person. It’s the slut vs. good girls syndrome, and it pits women against one another.

The thing that most saddens me about porngraphy is that no one is spared. As you can see in this slide show, whether you are college student, school teacher, mother, wife, black, white, Asian, Latina – so long as you’re a woman, you are objectified.

Sex, no matter how kinky, is beautiful when it comes with respect and love. But these sex acts, especially when it comes with describing women as bitches, whores, dumb sluts and other adjectives, I have a problem with that. It’s hurtful, and it does not treat women as equals.

Feminism isn’t about just freedom to do whatever the hell we want. It’s the ability to free us all – from oppression, from a violent, male-dominated culture, from the social norms that have hurt us rather than free us

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I agree with you, for the most part. It’s difficult to have a conversation about this issue with someone who has never really examined it. It’s easy to look at it from the surface and just say, if you don’t like it, don’t look at it. But it’s more insidious than that – and more complicated.

However, I do think that there is a place for pornography – or explicit media if you prefer. I think lots of women are interested in it for it’s own sake and not because the men in their lives are. We are starting to see porn that is directed by women (and sometimes that is directed by men) that is less stereotypical in its depiction of men and women and sex in general. And is more egalitarian in the activities and relationships depicted. I don’t think that is necessarily damaging to women or men and there needs to be an openness to that.

Comment by palepurple

I do think there’s a place for such as well – as both entertainment and educational tools. It’s just – I don’t find calling a woman insulting names or showing images of women being dominated and being sexual objects to men to be …very entertaining. In fact, it’s quite misogynistic.

It’s not the sex acts I am against – it’s how everything is portrayed.

Comment by profeministmale

Yeah, I saw that. Thanks. And I thought Christians in America were scary. I’d drop by and say something, but I don’t think they’re worth my time.

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